Who are you?
Who are you? Are you the one who you think you are? Or you are the one that other thinks you are?
Well read the below quote to understand who you are:
“I am not what I think I am, I am not what you think I am, I am what I think you think I am.”
That’s right, for most of us in this world, you are not what you think you are, you are not what others think you are, you are what you think others think you are. That is you are your perception of others perception about you.
Isn’t that true?
We spend most of our time in thinking about what others think about us, what will they like us to do, what will please them and in return make us more appreciable and likable. But is this the goal or thinking that we really should have? Aren’t we wasting our energy and life in think thought?
Let’s dig deeper. Just consider that you do one thing to please someone and you get appreciated by that person for that but what next? You will again try to find a thing or action to perform to please that person or some other person. There is no ending to this thought or process.
So why not please ourselves?
Why not please your own soul and mind. Why not break apart from this trap and think of the things and actions that will make us peaceful and satisfied and when you do that you will find that there are many people who still like you and love you because they love you as you are whether you please them or not.
Whatever you do, whatever you think there will be some people who will like that and some people who will not like that but you have to focus on the people for who that doesn’t matter. In everyone’s life, there are people who like you for the character that is pure you and not influenced by the thoughts of others. They don’t like you because you are good at academics or good in sports or have a good personality but they like you for your character and uniqueness that you possess without anyone else’s influencing it. People like this are your family and close friends.
How to break from this thinking about what others think about you and start acting through your own will?
First of all, be clear that when it is said to act according to your own will, it doesn’t mean to do incorrect things or do something for your benefit that hurts or incorrect for others. There is a very thin line between acting on your own will in an appropriate manner without having bad outcomes and acting on your own will and being a disaster. You have to understand this difference and act accordingly.
Now, let see how can we break this thinking about what others think about you and start acting through your own will. The first step in this is to know that you are doing this and as you are reading this blog you have already taken the first step. Next, you have to know the difference between you will and what you do after thinking about what others think about you. You have to observe yourself to draft this difference for days. Once you draft this difference you then have to willingly and consciously decide which one of the actions, thoughts, and decisions you have to stop doing according to others and start doing it your way.
This is not a onetime process but a continuous process and you will have to keep repeating it and practice it daily. It will become hard many times and you have been doing this since long but you can do it as you know this thinking that you have is incorrect and thus you have a reason and will to change.
Remember, “If it wasn’t hard, everyone would do it. It’s the hard that makes it great.”
Soon, you will observe that you have started transforming yourself from an image of others to a unique and better image of your own thoughts and actions.
Once, you start doing this you own your actions and their responsibilities. And that feels great. You are captain of your ship and then you can handle your life more efficiently and make a difference for yourself and others.